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  • Dating Advice For Black Singles

    I first met my ex-boyfriend while a sophomore in college & he was a senior.  We first started as BUDDIES but our relationship quickly blossomed & we had a relationship for nearly 5 years.  After graduation & entering the real world of a lack luster job, our relationship began to get very rocky for several reasons.  Just before our 5 year mark, I asked for time off.  We both were not happy individually or together.  I was hoping the time apart would allow us to work on our personal issues & solidify our relationship.

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  • Wyclef Jean’s – Yele Haiti Earthquake Relief

    Wyclef Jean Yele Haiti FoundationIn 2005, Haitian-born musician Wyclef Jean created the grassroots charity organization Yéle Haiti. The founder of the Grammy-winning group The Fugees coined the term Yéle in a song which was deemed to mean, “A Cry For Freedom.”

    Initially, the goal of the foundation was to restore pride and hope to the Haitian people through the launch of initiatives that would allow Haiti’s citizens to empower themselves. Scholarships were created, as well as endowments for arts and culture, food distribution services and emergency relief.

    While these investments were made at a time that the people of Haiti deemed to be arduous, suffering from tropical storms, hurricanes, political revolutions and other natural disasters and health disasters, they could not have anticipated the devastation that was to beset them on January 12, 2010.haiti earthquake

    Haiti, one of the poorest and most under developed nations in the world, was hit with a mammoth earthquake measuring 7.0 on the Richter scale decimating it’s capital Port au Prince. Among the structures damaged in the quake were the Haitian Presidential Palace, the United Nations Embassy (which was a 5 story edifice), and several hospitals. Already plagued with poor health care services, the destruction of existing medical facilities will only further exacerbate a bleak situation in aid and recovery of injured victims. A consensus on the death toll has not yet been tallied but fatalities are estimated to be in the tens of thousands. Unfortunately, among the confirmed dead is the chief of the UN mission in Haiti, Ambassador Hedi Annabi.  Haitian President Rene Preval is reported to be safe and in contact with President Obama to coordinate the rescue efforts.urn:newsml:dpa.com:20090101:100113-11-10177

    President Barrack Obama has pledged unwavering support from the U.S. and has deployed air craft providing food, water, clothing and medical supplies, while Haitian celebrity, Wyclef Jean and his Yele Haiti Foundation have taken to the internet with pleas for donations. On the official Yele Haiti Foundation facebook page it’s posted status is:

    “Yele Haiti Please help Haiti in their time of need. You can donate $5 by texting YELE to 501501 or get more info by visiting www.yele.org”

    Undoubtedly, Wyclef Jean will also be donating funds from his personal fortune and it has been reported that he will be donating proceeds from the sale of  his  records and  ringtones during this period to the Haiti relief effort. Digicell, an Irish company that provides cellular coverage in the Caribbean pledged to donate $5 million to the rescue efforts. The U.N. has released $10 million in emergency funds to establish immediate operations in Haiti.  Its World Food Program is sending a cargo plane full of high energy biscuits to the island today. Each biscuit packs enough nutritional value to feed a person for an entire day. The first shipment should feed 30,000 people for a week. Reports are coming in that numerous countries are gearing up to lend support.

  • Verizons New Droid Phone – The Reviews Are In!!



    Can you feel the tremors? Verizon’s hotly anticipated Motorola Droid finally arrives on Friday, and — if the earth-rumbling ads are to be believed — we’ll be feeling its force all over the world.

    All right, so the ads may be a bit exaggerated. Let’s face it, though: This phone is stirring up quite the geek-friendly frenzy. Whether you think it’ll be a mere blip on the radar or you believe it’ll send the iPhone scrambling to a secure bunker, the Droid has definitely become difficult to ignore.

    Here’s a quick and easy guide to everything you need to know about Verizon’s Droid and its November 6 launch.

    Verizon’s Droid: The Basics

    • Verizon’s Motorola Droid is 4.56 by 2.36 inches and weighs just under 6 ounces.

    • The phone features 3.7-inch, 854-by-480 pixel touchscreen display.

    • It has a slide-out QWERTY keyboard and a 5-megapixel camera with DVD-quality video recording.

    • The Droid utilizes an Arm Cortex 550mHz A8 processor with 256MB of built-in memory. It has a 16GB microSD card and can be expanded to 32GB.

    • Running the Android 2.0 operating system, the Droid is capable of multitasking and features unique options such as integrated turn-by-turn GPS navigation.

    • The Droid connects to Google’s Android Market, which features roughly 10,000 downloadable apps.

    Verizon Droid Smartphone

    Verizon’s Droid: The Buying

    • The Droid costs $199.99 when bought with a new two-year contract. In most instances, however, you’ll end up paying $299.99 up-front, then getting $100 back via a mail-in rebate.

    • If you buy your Droid at Best Buy, you can avoid paying the extra $100 from the mail-in rebate. Best Buy will automatically credit the rebate at the time of your purchase, meaning you’ll pay only $199.99 that day.

    • The Droid requires a Verizon voice plan, which runs a minimum of $39.99 for 450 minutes. It also requires an unlimited data plan, which runs an additional $29.99. Text messaging is not included and costs extra to add on.

    • Over two years’ time, you’d end up paying essentially the same amount with either an iPhone 3GS or a Verizon Droid. A Palm Pre would end up costing you a good bit less.

    • Despite some initial confusion, you will not have to pay extra simply to utilize the Droid’s Microsoft Exchange ActiveSync feature. There is a $15 surcharge only if you have a multiple-line business account.

    • Verizon Wireless will open many of its retail stores early Friday morning to accommodate the Droid launch. Some locations will open at 7 or 8 a.m. The flagship Verizon store on 34th Street in New York City will open from midnight to 2 a.m. for an early round of Droid sales. Be sure to call your specific store to check on its hours, as opening times vary from place to place.

    Verizon’s Droid: The Reviews

    Verizon Droid ReviewsPC World: “The first Android 2.0 phone impresses with a strong suite of Web features and a stunning 3.7-inch display, but some users might have trouble with the shallow keyboard.”

    The New York Times (David Pogue): “The Droid wins on phone network, customizability, GPS navigation, speaker, physical keyboard, removable battery and openness (free operating system, mostly uncensored app store).”

    The Wall Street Journal (Walt Mossberg): “It’s the best super-smart phone Verizon offers, the best Motorola phone I’ve tested and the best hardware so far to run Android. I can recommend the Droid to Verizon loyalists who have lusted for a better smart phone, but don’t want to switch networks.”

    Time: “The Droid is without a doubt the best Android device currently available; it’s also the best phone Verizon has to offer and it doesn’t hurt that Verizon is the best network. … [It] comes in a close second to the iPhone in terms of a seamless user experience.”

    Gizmodo: “If you don’t buy an iPhone, buy a Droid. It’s the best phone on Verizon, and with Android 2.0, the second best smartphone you can buy, period. It’s flawed, deeply in some ways. But it’s the second best phone around, on the best network around.”

    Engadget: “It’s hard not to recommend the Droid to potential buyers eager to do more with their devices. It’s easily the best Android phone to date, and when you couple the revamped OS, Verizon’s killer network, and an industrial design straight from a gadget enthusiast’s fever-dream, it makes for a powerful concoction.”

    Boy Genius Report: “We absolutely love the Motorola Droid. It’s a perfect storm between awesome hardware, great software, and a great network.”

    SlashGear: “The Verizon Droid by Motorola sets the bar for all new Android devices and is arguably the best Android device to date. … While the Droid lacks the Apple handset’s finesse and polish, it’s only a few steps behind.”

  • The 10 Biggest Myths About Starting An Internet Business

    online-moneyYou have heard from people saying Internet Business is a waste of time, you will not make any money, there is no real money to be made online, it will never work and so many others negative words coming from people who don’t really understand in this Internet Business industry.

    The thing is, it does work. Why some people make a fortune and some don’t even make money at all? Simply because the people who make thousands or millions of cash knew all the lies in this business and they will not trust these lies.

    So what is this big internet lies? Below here are the 10 big internet lies that you should know:

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  • Pop-Up Stores Provide Lucrative Alternative For Small Businesses

    Savvy entrepreneurs and larger retailers are opening up temporary stores, or “pop-ups” in empty storefronts, simultaneously boosting their brand and bottom line. The stores can last anywhere from a few days to a few months. And with the U.S. retail vacancy rate at 7.6%, for the third quarter of 2009, compared with 6.4% for the third quarter of 2008, according CoStar Group, Inc.– and the holidays just around the corner– now might be the best time to take advantage of the weak commercial real estate market.

  • Omarosa Manigault-Stallworth: Reuniting with Donald Trump For All-New Dating Show

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    With the winter season steadily approaching, many hopeless romantics are prepping their fire wood in anticipation of quality time with loved ones. All of which leads to one particular reality star who is currently on the hunt for new love.

    Former ‘Celebrity Apprentice’ finalist Omarosa Manigault-Stallworth is set to reunite and partner with real estate/reality TV tycoon Donald J. Trump for an all-new TV One reality dating series aptly titled ‘Omarosa’s Ultimate Merger.’

    The Youngstown, Ohio native will attempt to find a new flame by putting 12 successful eligible bachelors through an array of challenges to test each man’s business acumen, seductive strengths, and their true intentions to dating her.

    “Omarosa was a great personality on the ‘Apprentice’ that was watched by over 40 million people as it became the #1 show on TV,” Trump said. “Omarosa is smart, witty, and difficult, but all of these qualities will make for some very interesting entertainment.”

    “I am very excited to partner with the great Comcast Corporation and TV One,” he continued. “They really stepped up to the plate to do this deal. TV One is making a huge impression on the cable landscape with this tremendous new show.”

    Not one to shy away from the cameras, viewers can expect the famous billionaire turned entertainment mogul to make special appearances on the show to offer advice on who should get the boot.

    Show producers were very fixed on creating a distinctive dating show for prime time television, in addition to scaling to the network’s “cable budget.”

    “The challenge was coming up with not just your typical dating show,” said Executive Producer Robert Horowitz. “This is the biggest show TV One has done in the relationship space. The challenge womarosaas creating a prime time-style relationship series on a cable budget.”

    “Omarosa is known for her drive to succeed and her take-no-prisoners attitude, and watching her use these qualities in her love life will make for great TV,” he added.

    ‘Omarosa’s Ultimate Merger’ is currently being shot at Las Vegas’ Trump International Hotel and Tower. The show is tentatively scheduled to next spring.

     

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  • Boost Your Credit Score

    The rules for boosting credit have not changed in light of the new Credit CARD Act. “The rules have stayed the same: Pay bills on time, keep credit card balances low, and avoid bankruptcy and foreclosure,” says LaToya Irby, credit and debt management expert for About.com.

  • 8 Considerations in Selecting a Yoga Retreat

    Congratulations! You are considering a yoga retreat. You have allocated the time and money and are committed to a meaningful experience. Other than someone else’s opinion, how do you know what to expect from your upcoming yoga retreat? We think a little f…

  • Fill-in Carter sparks Steelers in Denver (AP)

    Broncos running back LaMont Jordan(notes) sits on the bench at the end of the NFL football game against the Pittsburgh Steelers in Denver on Monday, Nov. 9, 2009. The Steelers won 28-10.

    Safety Ryan Clark got his wish: replacement Tyrone Carter took one to the house and Clark got to fly home with his teammates this time. Carter started in place of Clark as a precaution Monday night and made the big play that sparked the Steelers to their fifth straight win, taking the first of his two interceptions 48 yards for a touchdown in Pittsburgh's 28-10 win over the Denver Broncos.

  • Grizzlies not sure of Iverson’s plans (AP)

    Memphis owner Michael Heisley says he is not sure of what Allen Iverson's future plans are, though he hopes Iverson returns to the Grizzlies soon. Heisley granted the 10-time all-star permission Saturday for an indefinite leave to deal with a personal matter. The Commercial Appeal newspaper reported Monday that Iverson is contemplating retirement.

  • Suns’ Richardson has 34, Celtics now 6-1 (AP)

    Boston Celtics forward Paul Pierce(notes), left, tries to get to the basket past Phoenix Suns forward Louis Amundson(notes) during the first half of Phoenix's 110- 103 win in an NBA basketball game in Boston, Friday, Nov. 6, 2009.

    Jason Richardson and the Phoenix Suns had no trouble putting their only loss of the season behind them, even against unbeaten Boston. One game after going scoreless for just the third time in his career, Richardson had 34 points and 10 rebounds to lead Phoenix to a 110-103 victory over the Celtics on Friday night.

  • Fighter Pat Barry Wins Big Purse Right Before Being Homeless

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    UFC fighter Pat Barry was thanking his lucky stars for his big win against Antoni Hardonk. The fighter won a $120,000 purse for his accomplishment, which was right on time given that he was literally six days away from being evicted from his apartment. Barry’s win was emotional for obvious reasons and nearly everyone in his camp was in shock to hear about his financial situation. What is saddest is that his challenges are not uncommon among fighters in general.

    Although Pat Barry hasn’t had the chance to earn millions, many major fighters end up going broke even after their gravy trains have stopped flowing. The outcomes don’t make any sense, given that a bit of financial discipline could have made all the difference in the world. When you earn as much as $10 – $20 million dollars in a payday, you can live a pretty wild financial life and still have money to save. Instead, some athletes seem to want to push the limits and it’s actually uncommon to hear of any boxer who DOESN’T end up in the poor house.

    Here are a list of financial demons that plague fighters when they finally hit the big time:

    1) The bling: For some reason, athletes and entertainers are expected to live an incredibly extravagant lifestyle. Mike Tyson employed over 200 people and spent millions on items too ridiculous to mention. What’s worse is that Mike Tyson actually owed as much as $38 million dollars at one point. Evander Holyfield’s $10 million dollar, 54,000 square foot mansion was put on the auction block last year after foreclosure. Many athletes go into debt because they are banking on their next payday to get them out of the new financial holes they keep digging for themselves.

    2) Bad relationships: Divorce is a great way to go broke. Before Muhammad Ali married his third wife, Lonnie, his previous wife divorced him and took his last $2 million dollars right before Muhammad’s career ended with Parkinson’s disease. It was at that point when he found himself broke and unable to earn additional income. Fortunately, a good woman came into his life and used her MBA from UCLA to liquidate the massive financial value from his brand name. So, as much as black male athletes can be ruined by women, they can also be saved by them. However, a long string of baby’s mamas, bad marriages, draining relatives and expensive arm candy can cost an athlete dearly.

    3) The IRS: The IRS is sneaky and has led to the financial demise of many celebs. Even honest, hard working Americans can fall prey to the demon of back taxes. Joe Louis was one great example of a man who made a great deal of money, but found out years later that he owed tax money to the IRS. For the rest of his career, he would wander from one fight to another, with IRS agents waiting in the back room to take the entire purse after the fight. While his career was a great one, he was not a happy man in old age.

    4) A lack of education: A lack of money management ability and inadequate financial literacy plagues many wealthy entertainers and athletes. Growing up in poverty doesn’t exactly endow you with an extensive understanding of trust funds, estate planning, stocks and bonds. One of the great tragedies for NFL and NBA athletes is that many of them attend universities that simply hand the athlete a degree without forcing the athlete to get an education. But there is an old saying that “a fool and his money will soon part ways.” Even if you are incredibly wealthy, you have simply made yourself into a sucker for those who are smart enough to take that money from you.

    5) The leaches: The easiest way to get a pack of new friends is to have a lot of money. In addition to the friends who suddenly find you to be a fascinating human being, you’ve got managers, lawyers, agents, homeboys and baby’s mamas who want their cut. It is not uncommon for a celebrity to have to give away as much as $700,000 out of every million dollars he/she earns. Everybody wants a piece of your pie until you are down and out; at that point, you become yesterday’s news.

    I don’t think that any athlete should live like a miser, that’s no fun. Instead, why not simply save 20% of your income and party with the rest? That would give you a nest egg for retirement and allow you to pay the bills after you’ve fought your last fight. What’s saddest is that every boxer says they are going to retire young and none of them ever do. It’s time to stop living the same story over and over again.

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, “Black American Money.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Yankees win 27th World Series title (AP)

    People watch a TV at Yamada Denki discount store in Tokyo, Japan, Thursday, Nov. 5, 2009, showing New York Yankees' Hideki Matsui(notes) at bat during the Major League Baseball World Series Game 6 against the Philadelphia Phillies Wednesday, Nov. 4, 2009, in New York. Matsui became the first Japanese-born player to be named World Series Most Valuable Player after hitting a record six RBIs in the deciding game to lead the Yankees over the Phillies 7-3.

    The New York Yankees bolted from the dugout even before the last grounder was scooped up. After waiting nine years for championship No. 27, no one would dare hold them back. "It feels better than I remember it, man," captain Derek Jeter said. "It's been a long time." Hideki Matsui tied a World Series record with six RBIs, Andy Pettitte won on short rest and New York beat the…

  • Republicans Make Significant Gains After Long Drought

    Suddenly being Republican is a whole lot more satisfying than it has been for a long time. On Tuesday, the Grand Old Party won gubernatorial races in Virginia and New Jersey, largely with the help of the very Independent voters who gave President Barack Obama his historic victory in 2008.

  • Blue Jays CF Wells to have wrist surgery (AP)

    Toronto Blue Jays outfielder Vernon Wells will have surgery next week to repair damaged cartilage in his left wrist. The team announced Tuesday that Wells is expected to be ready in time for spring training. Wells, who is entering the third season of a seven-year, $126-million contract extension, hit .260 with 15 home runs and 66 RBIs in 158 games last season.

  • Shyne’s 1st Press Conference

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    Shyne’s first time speaking. Since his release from prison.

  • Layaway Plans – 2009

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    It’s that time again when the stores will be crowded with thousands of consumers all vying for the same toy, special sweater, hottest electronic device. How do you plan to purchase it?

    The current crumbling economy has sparked interest in a form of retail purchasing that became popular in the early 1900s, that of Lay Away. How does it work? It’s simple. You, the consumer would like to buy something but don’t have the money. All you do is make installment payments on the merchandise. The merchant stocks your item away until your last payment. You receive it once your tab is paid in full. Of course this is different than a credit card purchase which allows you to take home your intended product and make payments while using it.Although stores like Walmart did away with this form of procurement years ago, Kmart stayed in the game. Stores currently offering layaway plans are:

    • Burlington Coat Factory
    • Kmart
    • Marshalls (at select locations)
    • TJ Maxx (at select locations)
    • Benny’s (New England)
    • Sears ( through December 23)
    • Cato – (offering 30-day plans)
    • Men’s Wearhouse
    • Boscov’s
    • Value City Furniture Stores
    • Footlocker (at select locations)
    • Best Buy
    • Toys-R-Us

    Plan on taking advantage of this service? Be sure to READ THE FINE PRINT.

    1. Get a copy of the store’s layaway policies
    2. Understand ALL of the policies – schedule of payments, rules regarding late fees, refund and exchange policies, markdowns on sale items, etc.
    3. Keep a good record and all receipts of payments (in case there are any disputes later).

    Until you make all the payments, the store has your merchandise AND your money. For this reason, I prefer to use cash, debit or credit cards OVER layaway, any day. Assuming I can pay off the balance in a short period of time. It’s true, credit card companies charge interest, therefore depending on the length of time it takes you to pay off the debt and the interest charged, your purchase which was originally on sale could potentially cost you much more in the end. However, I just can’t bear the thought of someone using MY money while I have nothing to show for it. Also, sad to say in these critical times retailers are closing doors for good, left and right. If you have something on layaway, on which you’ve been faithfully making payments and the store closes, you’re out your goods as well as your cash. Of course the choice is yours.

    If you know of other stores, please let us know in your comments.

     

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  • Obama’s Fed Chairman Makes Racially Ignorant Remarks: Dr Boyce Analyzes

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    I’ve always had mixed feelings about Federal Reserve Chairman Ben Bernanke. I feel that he is better than the previous chairman, Alan Greenspan, but the Fed Chairmanship (like the presidency) is almost never given to the right man. Just the fact that it is almost always given to a man is problematic enough, and the truth is that only white men need apply for the job.

    Well, when you are limited in your option pool for the top job, bad leadership and flat out ignorance can sometimes be the result. While Fed Chairman Bernanke might know some nuts and bolts about economics, he appears to be shockingly misinformed about economic disparities between blacks and whites. His embarrassing and highly inappropriate statements at Morehouse College serve as a significant case in point.

    In a recent interview at Morehouse, the Fed Chairman was asked what he felt to be the reason for the wealth gap between blacks and whites. In response, Bernanke said that the gap was due to a lack of “financial literacy” and “financial education” on the part of African Americans. That’s all he mentioned.

    What? Sorry Ben, but did you ever hear of this little thing called “slavery”? What about this other thing called “Jim Crow laws,” which made it nearly impossible for African Americans to pass wealth onto their children? Do you truly believe that whites have the bulk of American wealth because they were simply harder working and more intelligent in their wealth building strategies? Do you know how silly you sound?

    According to the 2007 Survey of Consumer Finances, the median household wealth of white Americans is 10 times greater than that for African-Americans. And in spite of what the Fed Chairman might believe, it is not due to the fact that black people are financially ignorant. Rather, it is due to leaders such as Bernanke who refuse to acknowledge how 400 years of racially-biased wealth distribution can impact structural and financial inequality.

    The other point that Mr. Bernanke fails to mention is that white American saving and investing habits are incredibly problematic as well. The recent financial crisis was due to the fact that the American savings rate had become negative for the first time since the Great Depression. Additionally, Americans (not just black people Ben) were borrowing money for homes they could not afford and not preparing for retirement. So, the idea that Chairman Bernanke would sum up the black/white wealth gap as “White people smart….black people illiterate” is a shocking disappointment and a glaring reminder of the fact that our economic captains in the Obama Administration have almost no understanding or respect for the unique economic challenges of the African American community.

    I won’t even get into Obama’s appointment of Lawrence Summers as Treasury Secretary, given that Summers disrespected Dr. Cornel West, one of the most significant black scholars in American history. During a spat when Summers was president of Harvard, he criticized Dr. West’s work as not representing “appropriate” scholarship. Translation: you are doing something that white scholars don’t understand, which thus implies that you must be inferior – I get it all the time here at Syracuse, a school that hasn’t tenured a black man in Finance in their entire 140-year history – perhaps we lazy black folks are just not good enough. Professor Summers is also the one who implied that women might have a natural deficiency in their ability to understand mathematics. The idea that Obama supports individuals who continue to embrace mindsets reflective of white male supremacy should be problematic to us all. The financial team within his administration needs a makeover, and their “expertise” and qualifications should be questioned by the American people.

    A note to Chairman Bernanke: The present around us has been created by a set of tasks that were performed in the past. If you are only able to see wealth disparities through a lens created in the year 2009, one that is blurred by your own biases as a white male in an elitist profession, you are missing 99% of the picture. To cite African American ignorance as the sole driver of wealth gaps in America is a reminder that our leadership still thinks of black people as second class citizens. Rather than presuming cultural superiority on the part of whites, why not engage in creative and intelligent policy analysis that might actually fix the problem that America has created. It was not the flaws of black America which created structural inequality; it was poor decision-making on the part of the very institution with which men like Bernanke, Summers and Obama are employed. It’s time for some personal responsibility.

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the forthcoming book, “Black American Money.” To have Dr Boyce commentary delivered directly to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Ariza helps Rockets overcome Roy’s 42 (AP)

    Houston Rockets' Aaron Brooks(notes) shoots a three pointer in the fourth quarter against the Portland Trail Blazers during an NBA basketball game on Saturday, Oct. 31, 2009, in Houston.

    No Yao Ming. No Tracy McGrady. No problem for the Houston Rockets. Trevor Ariza, making the move from the Lakers this season, scored a career high 33 points, Aaron Brooks added 28 points and the Rockets held on to beat the Portland Trail Blazers at home for the fifth straight time in regular season, 111-107 Saturday night.

  • Sabathia to start on 3 days’ rest again (AP)

    CC Sabathia actually likes starting on three days' rest. "I hate to throw bullpens," the New York Yankees big man said. "I don't have to throw a bullpen when I pitch on three days' rest." Sabathia will throw on short rest for the second time this postseason when he starts Game 4 of the World Series on Sunday night against Philadelphia's Joe Blanton.

  • Roxanne Shante: Coming Clean, Saying Sorry, Being Thankful and Fighting Cancer

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    Roxanne Shante: Coming Clean, Saying Sorry, Being Thankful and Fighting Cancer

    In April, a New York Daily News article about how ’80s rap music pioneer Roxanne Shante forced her record company to finance her college education (resulting in a degree from Marymount Manhattan College and a Ph.D. in psychology from Cornell University) tugged at the heart-strings of Hip Hop America. Soon after, a firestorm of controversy ensued when an article on Slate.com debunked the inspiring story.

    Roxanne Shante (nee Lolita Shante Gooden) is widely recognized as the first female hip hop artist to break through the male dominated industry. At the age of 16, she became a household name with songs including ‘Roxanne’s Revenge’ – an “answer” record responding to U.T.F.O.’s popular ‘Roxanne, Roxanne.’

    She offers Blackvoices.com some insight on the controversy and her very real life battle with breast cancer … in her own words.

    In March, I noticed a lump in my left breast, rather small at the time and didn’t really know what I was feeling. So instead of going straight to the doctor’s office, I started asking friends their opinion and trying to go by their experiences. It was such a stupid move. Well, I figured I was just getting older. A hysterectomy in my early thirties led me to believe that I would be fine. Another stupid move.

    I let months go by – five months to be exact. The weight loss of over 40 pounds made me feel like, “Damn, this diet is finally working.” But then I remembered I wasn’t on a diet. So on a bright, sunny day in August 2009, I walked into Doshi center for a mammogram. I put on the gown and stepped up to the machine. As soon as the technician took my breast in her hand, she asked me how long had I had the lump. It’s huge, she said. I made a joke, she giggled, but I was scared and angry that I had waited so long.

    I was in denial. I event went so far as to ignore the letters sent by the lab that read: “Urgent!!! Please contact us.”
    I had gotten a call from the doctor, “I just received your images at my office and they have been trying to reach you for weeks. As soon as you get back to New York, you come to my office. This is your life.”

    I hung up, turned the phone off, walked out on the set and tried to pretend that the call never happen. But they did. And it showed on my face.

    The doctors was a different story, however.

    This is how the week went. Headlines: ‘No Ph.D. Roxanne’s Revenge,’ ‘Where are you Roxanne?’

    It was the ’80s all over again, but this time not to spark a career but to end over 10 years of charities, pushing education and giving and helping people and not too mention 25 years of hip-hop. But that’s nothing new. What about my children ? My 13-yea-old ? What if I die? So Tuesday another mamo, Wednesday ultrasound Thursday the bad news and then the surgery.

    So I felt all eyes were on me to tell women how important it is for them to get checked. It is only by the grace of God that I have been able to survive. I have been blessed to not only have survived the pitfalls of an industry that has destroyed so many, but to also survive just the everyday struggles of surviving all the negative that has come my way .

    Do I apologize? Yes, I do. But I am not asking for your forgiveness. I am sorry about a lot of things that I should’ve done differently. There were quite a few things that have been exposed with that article; the fact that I never received any royalties, the fact that I did go on to attend college (even if no Ph.D. was acquired), and the fact that at 14 years old and coming straight from the group home, I wRoxanne Shanteent on to create a career that even after 20 years of not making a hit record, was still pulling headlines.

    My platform was only telling our young people to educate themselves before getting in this industry, and that your lawyer, accountant, manager and record company shouldn’t all be under one roof or work together. No one ever told me that, so I felt the need to pass that along to our young people.

    And now I have another testimony.

    To be called Dr. Roxanne Shante was and is a privilege. But with that privilege comes pressure. I also had to live and talk like someone with a doctorate–not an easy task at all. I had to make sure that people felt healed and inspired after speaking with me.

    And you know what? I accomplished that every time. But only with God’s help.

    So, yes, I apologize to all those who applied themselves and put in all the hard work that is required to acquire a Ph.D. I admire you all. But don’t discredit all the hard work and sacrifices so many others have also done to also reach their goals.

    I apologize again but I don’t request your forgiveness, because I have already been forgiven by who matters: God. Sorry I can’t hold my head down because my crown may fall off.

    Life begins at 40.

     

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  • New-look Magic roll past Sixers 120-106 (AP)

    Philadelphia 76ers center Samuel Dalembert(notes), left, of Haiti, and forward Marreese Speights(notes) watch the final seconds of the second half of an NBA  basketball game against the Orlando Magic in Orlando, Fla., Wednesday, Oct. 28, 2009.  The Magic won 120-106.

    The Orlando Magic didn't spend much time hoisting their Eastern Conference championship banner. They didn't take long to adjust to a revamped roster, either. Dwight Howard had 21 points and 15 rebounds, Vince Carter scored 15 points and the new-look Magic rolled to a 120-106 victory over the Philadelphia 76ers on Wednesday night in the season opener for both teams.

  • What To Do Today to Prepare For This Year’s Taxes

    It’s not tax season yet, but by the time you finish feasting on turkey and calculating the damage from holiday spending, it’ll be time to gather receipts, fill out forms, and calculate deductions. Before Uncle Sam comes knocking like an unexpected visit for that surly, lazy cousin you tried to avoid all holiday season, check out what you can do today to prepare your 2009 taxes.

  • Motor City Overhaul

    When black enterprise announced its decision to have its 2009 Entrepreneurs Conference + Expo in Detroit, the move raised more than a few eyebrows. After all, if the nation was in a recession at the time, surely Detroit must be in a full-fledged depression. The automotive industry—the city’s lifeblood—was facing its worst business climate ever, prompting massive layoffs, restructurings, and, in General Motors’ case, bankruptcy. The city, which was struggling prior to the events in the auto industry, had to contend with high rates of unemployment and poverty as well as real estate values that had plummeted to the point where a significant portion of the population found their mortgage balance exceeded the value of their homes.

  • McGwire to be coach for La Russa’s Cards (AP)

    Mark McGwire is back in baseball, reunited with Tony La Russa as the St. Louis Cardinals' hitting coach. La Russa agreed to return for a 15th year as manager Monday with a one-year contract, the first time he hasn't had a multiyear deal with the team. All of his coaches will return except for Hal McRae, who will be replaced by the former star.

  • Wizards’ Jamison to miss 3 to 5 weeks (AP)

    Antawn Jamison's ailing shoulder will keep him off the court well into the regular season. The Washington Wizards announced an estimated recovery time for Jamison's injury Friday, saying he's likely to miss the first eight to 13 games. "The most important thing is it's a long season," he said.

  • **NEW MUSIC** Adam Lambert – "Time For Miracles"

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    He may not have won, but he’s proving that all the spoils don’t go to the victor! Check out the first official single from American Idol runner up Adam Lambert, as he rocks out Time For Miracles, the theme song to the upcoming disaster flick 2012.

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  • Financial Lovemaking: Man Shoots Boy for Sleeping with His Daughter

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    I have daughters and I love them all. They are all at “that age,” between 16 and 20, where they tend to love the boys that you want to beat down the most. Every time I hear them express their undying love for Lil Wayne, I can only think about him having 3 women pregnant at the same time. When I see a Chris Brown poster in their room, I remind them that Chris was accused of having boxing practice on Rihanna’s face.

    But as a father, you can’t protect your daughters from themselves. Some things they have to learn on their own. And if sleeping with a pants-saggin, “purple stuff dranking,” gold grill wearing, 10,000 tattoo having buffoon is the way they need to learn their lessons, you just kinda have to deal with it.I empathize with Wade Edwards, the man accused of shooting a boy for sleeping with his step daughter. Wade shot the boy four times, aiming for the “relevant zone” with each bullet. But while I can understand Wade’s anger, I do not, for one second, condone his actions.

    You see Wade, it takes two people to “get busy.” If your daughter was choosing to sleep with this boy, that was her bad decision, not yours. Sure, it was disrespectful for them to get naked under your roof, but fathers have been getting furious about this kind of thing since the beginning of time. Sex is a powerful drug, the essence of the existence of all mankind, so the urge of human attraction can be strong enough to lead to seemingly deviant behavior.

    The problem for Wade, however, is one that merges with the lessons we teach in Financial Lovemaking: Allowing your love for another person to cause you to do things that are going to be financially and emotionally devastating for your family. Wade might feel that he was somehow protecting his daughter (he claims that it was self defense, but I don’t buy that logic), but the truth is that he has now dragged his family into a draining legal drama that is going to cost them thousands in attorney’s fees and even more financial loses when one of the primary providers for the household has to spend his time in prison.

    Any father can relate to how Edwards might have been feeling. Also, every father has to wonder how far he would go to protect his children. I personally would give my life to save my daughters and not think twice about it. At the same time, I would not allow myself to go to prison to keep my daughters from having sex. Sexuality is a natural part of life, even when we feel that the person is too young to be doing it. Don’t pretend like you don’t know what I’m talking about; you probably did it too.

    The episode of Financial lovemaking is below. Enjoy!

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with Your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Phillies win second straight NL pennant (AP)

    Philadelphia Phillies manager Charlie Manuel waves after the Phillies beat the Los Angeles Dodgers 10-4 in Game 5 of the National League Championship baseball series to win the league title Thursday, Oct. 22, 2009, in Philadelphia.

    Ryan Howard and the defending champs are back in the World Series — proving last year was no fluke and looking even more dangerous this time around. Jayson Werth homered twice, Shane Victorino and Pedro Feliz also connected and the Philadelphia Phillies beat the Los Angeles Dodgers 10-4 in Game 5 on Wednesday night to win their second straight NL pennant.

  • Refs could be back for regular season (AP)

    The NBA's locked-out referees could be back on the floor in time for the regular season. The league has made a new proposal, and a person familiar with the negotiations told The Associated Press it will be recommended for approval to the referees on Friday. The person, who requested anonymity because the negotiations are ongoing, said it's "highly likely" they'll be on the…