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  • NBA Star Antoine Walker is Broke: Five Lessons We can Learn

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    When I went to The University of Kentucky with Antoine Walker during the 1990s, we all knew he was going to be a star. He was headed for great things and would represent his family well. No one would have guessed that he would one day become the poster child for what NOT to do when you earn $110 million dollars.

    Antoine is busted, or as my friends would say, “broker than the 10 commandments.” He was recently arrested for not paying $800,000 in gambling debts he owed to a Vegas casino, and that’s when the financial roaches started coming out of the closet.

    In the midst of Antoine’s situation, we can all learn lessons. I thought I’d lay out a few for us to consider:

    1) Watch who you allow to handle your dough. It might sound good to say that you have an accountant, but the truth is that you are always vulnerable when someone is doing things with your money that you do not understand. Additionally, allowing friends and relatives to have access to your financial accounts is a very bad idea. While I have major issues with Bill Cosby, I was always impressed by the fact that he takes care of his own money. Also, one of the sad realities of NBA athletes is that most of them were not properly educated during college, given wimpy little majors that didn’t interfere with their athletics schedules, so some of them are unprepared to protect the wealth they work so hard to earn. Get an education- you’re going to need it.

    2) Don’t judge Antoine Walker harshly, this can happen to anyone. Going broke or going to jail is not just something that happens to bad or irresponsible people. The same is true for a gambling addiction. While we are tempted to attack Antoine Walker for his situation, the truth of the matter is that gambling problems impact hundreds of thousands of people every year: Campuses are being overrun by TV poker challenges and other seemingly harmless, yet financially devastating temptations. If you don’t yet have a gambling problem, be careful not to start one. That’s an easy way to go broke.

    3) Stay away from the vices: Drugs, gambling or other costly addictions have led to the financial downfall of many people. In addition to gambling, other vices such as drugs or alcohol can accelerate your path to the poor house. What’s worse is that the temptation to engage in these activities is greater when you have more money to burn. NBA and NFL stars are still quite young, and the idea of giving a 22-year old $10 million dollars a year is a scary thing. Even I would have made terrible mistakes if I’d received that much money so early in life. If you are in a relationship with someone who regularly engages in any of these bad habits, you might want to reconsider that relationship. It can cause you a great deal of trouble later on down the road.

    4) Show your love, but put a cap on it: Antoine Walker has shown himself to be a generous man, giving to children and taking care of relatives. The problem is that it’s difficult for anyone to be a one-man welfare machine. I only call it welfare when someone is asking for something for nothing. I find that it is more productive to ask for something before you give something away; put the relative to work on productive activities that will help save you money. It will make both of you feel better in the end. Also, budget your charity to ensure that you don’t go overboard in your giving. Typically, those who are asking you for money today won’t be anywhere around when you are having financial problems.

    5) Watch how hard you bling: While “blinging” and “balling” might be incredibly tempting, you should limit the number of status symbols you acquire in order to show your wealth. Antoine Walker has always loved to “do it big,” renting limos for every occasion and not wearing the same suit twice during the playoffs. While he gets a lot of points in style, the truth is that such financial extravagance is not only financially draining, it also makes you a big target. Years ago, when Antoine was robbed of several thousand dollars during a trip to Chicago (and again later at his home in Miami), we can probably assume that the robbers knew they were coming after a wealthy victim.

    I am not here to attack Antoine Walker. Instead, my goal is to make his challenges into a true teachable moment. The old model of the black athlete getting rich, staying uneducated, balling out of control and going broke has absolutely got to change. We must aim for something better.

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the forthcoming book, “Black American Money.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Antoine Walker is Broke: Five Lessons We can Learn

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    When I went to The University of Kentucky with Antoine Walker during the 1990s, we all knew he was going to be a star. He was headed for great things and would represent his family well. No one would have guessed that he would one day become the poster child for what NOT to do when you earn $110 million dollars.

    Antoine is busted, or as my friends would say, “broker than the 10 commandments.” He was recently arrested for not paying $800,000 in gambling debts he owed to a Vegas casino, and that’s when the financial roaches started coming out of the closet.

    In the midst of Antoine’s situation, we can all learn lessons. I thought I’d lay out a few for us to consider:

    1) Watch who you allow to handle your dough. It might sound good to say that you have an accountant, but the truth is that you are always vulnerable when someone is doing things with your money that you do not understand. Additionally, allowing friends and relatives to have access to your financial accounts is a very bad idea. While I have major issues with Bill Cosby, I was always impressed by the fact that he takes care of his own money. Also, one of the sad realities of NBA athletes is that most of them were not properly educated during college, given wimpy little majors that didn’t interfere with their athletics schedules, so some of them are unprepared to protect the wealth they work so hard to earn. Get an education- you’re going to need it.

    2) Don’t judge Antoine Walker harshly, this can happen to anyone. Going broke or going to jail is not just something that happens to bad or irresponsible people. The same is true for a gambling addiction. While we are tempted to attack Antoine Walker for his situation, the truth of the matter is that gambling problems impact hundreds of thousands of people every year: Campuses are being overrun by TV poker challenges and other seemingly harmless, yet financially devastating temptations. If you don’t yet have a gambling problem, be careful not to start one. That’s an easy way to go broke.

    3) Stay away from the vices: Drugs, gambling or other costly addictions have led to the financial downfall of many people. In addition to gambling, other vices such as drugs or alcohol can accelerate your path to the poor house. What’s worse is that the temptation to engage in these activities is greater when you have more money to burn. NBA and NFL stars are still quite young, and the idea of giving a 22-year old $10 million dollars a year is a scary thing. Even I would have made terrible mistakes if I’d received that much money so early in life. If you are in a relationship with someone who regularly engages in any of these bad habits, you might want to reconsider that relationship. It can cause you a great deal of trouble later on down the road.

    4) Show your love, but put a cap on it: Antoine Walker has shown himself to be a generous man, giving to children and taking care of relatives. The problem is that it’s difficult for anyone to be a one-man welfare machine. I only call it welfare when someone is asking for something for nothing. I find that it is more productive to ask for something before you give something away; put the relative to work on productive activities that will help save you money. It will make both of you feel better in the end. Also, budget your charity to ensure that you don’t go overboard in your giving. Typically, those who are asking you for money today won’t be anywhere around when you are having financial problems.

    5) Watch how hard you bling: While “blinging” and “balling” might be incredibly tempting, you should limit the number of status symbols you acquire in order to show your wealth. Antoine Walker has always loved to “do it big,” renting limos for every occasion and not wearing the same suit twice during the playoffs. While he gets a lot of points in style, the truth is that such financial extravagance is not only financially draining, it also makes you a big target. Years ago, when Antoine was robbed of several thousand dollars during a trip to Chicago (and again later at his home in Miami), we can probably assume that the robbers knew they were coming after a wealthy victim.

    I am not here to attack Antoine Walker. Instead, my goal is to make his challenges into a true teachable moment. The old model of the black athlete getting rich, staying uneducated, balling out of control and going broke has absolutely got to change. We must aim for something better.

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the forthcoming book, “Black American Money.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Layaway Plans – 2009

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    It’s that time again when the stores will be crowded with thousands of consumers all vying for the same toy, special sweater, hottest electronic device. How do you plan to purchase it?

    The current crumbling economy has sparked interest in a form of retail purchasing that became popular in the early 1900s, that of Lay Away. How does it work? It’s simple. You, the consumer would like to buy something but don’t have the money. All you do is make installment payments on the merchandise. The merchant stocks your item away until your last payment. You receive it once your tab is paid in full. Of course this is different than a credit card purchase which allows you to take home your intended product and make payments while using it.Although stores like Walmart did away with this form of procurement years ago, Kmart stayed in the game. Stores currently offering layaway plans are:

    • Burlington Coat Factory
    • Kmart
    • Marshalls (at select locations)
    • TJ Maxx (at select locations)
    • Benny’s (New England)
    • Sears ( through December 23)
    • Cato – (offering 30-day plans)
    • Men’s Wearhouse
    • Boscov’s
    • Value City Furniture Stores
    • Footlocker (at select locations)
    • Best Buy
    • Toys-R-Us

    Plan on taking advantage of this service? Be sure to READ THE FINE PRINT.

    1. Get a copy of the store’s layaway policies
    2. Understand ALL of the policies – schedule of payments, rules regarding late fees, refund and exchange policies, markdowns on sale items, etc.
    3. Keep a good record and all receipts of payments (in case there are any disputes later).

    Until you make all the payments, the store has your merchandise AND your money. For this reason, I prefer to use cash, debit or credit cards OVER layaway, any day. Assuming I can pay off the balance in a short period of time. It’s true, credit card companies charge interest, therefore depending on the length of time it takes you to pay off the debt and the interest charged, your purchase which was originally on sale could potentially cost you much more in the end. However, I just can’t bear the thought of someone using MY money while I have nothing to show for it. Also, sad to say in these critical times retailers are closing doors for good, left and right. If you have something on layaway, on which you’ve been faithfully making payments and the store closes, you’re out your goods as well as your cash. Of course the choice is yours.

    If you know of other stores, please let us know in your comments.

     

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  • Cavs beat Bobcats in West’s season debut (AP)

    Charlotte Bobcats' Tyson Chandler(notes), top, and Cleveland Cavaliers' Anderson Varejao(notes) (17), of Brazil, battle for a loose ball in the fourth quarter in an NBA basketball game, Saturday, Oct. 31, 2009, in Cleveland. The Cavaliers won 90-79.

    Before Delonte West headed to the locker room, Mo Williams grabbed his troubled teammate and pulled him close. Williams wanted West to hear something and whispered in his ear. "I told him, 'Stay with us'," Williams said. West scored 13 points — all in the second half — in his delayed season debut to spark Cleveland, Williams had 24, and LeBron James added an unselfish 14 as the…

  • Mistakes Couples Make When Mixing Love and Money Together

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    As I prepare for an appearance on ABC News to talk about money and relationships, I thought I would share the answers to some of my questions that were asked of me by the producers. Perhaps this can be valuable information that can be used to help others. There is more in my book, Financial Lovemaking, which goes deeply into the struggles that couples have when negotiating the challenging task of merging love and money together.

    1) What do Love and Money have in common?

    People think it’s taboo to mix love and money in a conversation, but it’s not. It’s actually essential that you do so. Loving together means living together. In most relationships, you spend more time talking about functional aspects of life, such as paying the bills and purchasing decisions than you spend on “lovey-dovey” stuff. Also, like making love, merging your assets involves sharing something of value with another person. Similar to the act of sharing your body, merging your assets with someone else can either be a fulfilling experience or a devastating one, depending on who you choose as your partner.

    2) What are the biggest mistakes couples make when it comes to managing love and relationships?

    I can list some common mistakes very simply: Not communicating about money, stepping into something without knowing what you’re getting into. Not being honest with yourself or your partner. Allowing love to dominate your logic when it comes to determining if someone is right for you. Not critically analyzing the spending, saving, borrowing and investing habits of your partner and how this is going to play out in the long-term. Not analyzing the long-term earning potential of your partner and determining if you are comfortable with it.

    3) What does it mean for a couple to “get financially naked with your partner?”

    In regular love, you eventually have to get naked. That means the person sees your physical assets and liabilities. The same should be done financially: you and your partner should share debt levels, income levels, spending habits, credit scores, perceptions of money and all the things that your partner needs to know. The key to making good love is communication and the same is true for financial lovemaking as well.

    4) Is financial lovemaking only a topic for couples or those seeking relationships?

    No. Part of the lovemaking process means learning to love yourself. That means understanding your own relationship with money and how you are going to reach your own financial goals. Good financial health is not just for the benefit of current and future partners, it is also important for you. Additionally, financial lovemaking affects how money and relationships merge in all kinds of scenarios: with your children, relatives, friends, etc. By being financially healthy, you are ready to merge assets in an effective way when the right situation comes along.

    5) How does bad financial lovemaking spread beyond your significant other? What about other offspring, relatives, etc?

    Many financial lovemaking problems come from our children and parents. If you don’t raise your children to be financially independent, they can become liabilities during retirement rather than assets. If you don’t know how to manage your financial relationships with loved ones, you might find yourself being drained in a way that frustrates both you and your partner. Love is something that permeates every dimension of our lives, so effectively managing our money can be a tool toward making good love.

    6) What is a “life portfolio” and what do you mean when you say that “our most significant financial assets in life having nothing to do with money?”

    The most valuable things in your life are usually non-financial: your health, your happiness, your love and your time. All of these things were granted to us from birth and have nothing to do with money. Many times, I see people destroying the most valuable assets in their lives, all in the pursuit of money, and I find that to be sad. Money should be a tool for the enhancement of that which is most valuable to you, not a weapon to destroy the things that matter.

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with Your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • HOT COPY: Usher’s 911 Call Posted Online

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    Usher 911 Call

    Last week reports were circulating stating that R&B superstar Usher had called authorities back in September to report that his car had been keyed, and that he implicated his estranged wife, Tameka Foster. Well apparently TMZ got their hands on the 911 tape which reveals the ‘Confessions’ singer explaining in detail what he believes took place.

    “I want to report a situation where my car has been keyed,” Usher said. “…It happened last night apparently. I called [last night] and filed a complaint because of a potential domestic violence [situation] between me and my ex-wife. She had come to my house. They sent the police here last night; we filed a complaint.”

    In response to the tape’s release a rep for Foster told MTV News the story is “totally preposterous” and “did not happen.”

    Hear the 911 call here.

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      (L-R) Maryam Saghatelian, AVP of Cartier Beverly Hills, musician Usher, Larissa Sabadash and President and CEO of Cartier North America Frederic De Narp attend the Cartier 100th Anniversary In America Celebration at the Cartier Boutique on June 3, 2009 in Beverly Hills, California..Cartier 100th Anniversary Exhibition and Cocktail.Cartier Boutique.Beverly Hills, CA United States.June 3, 2009.Photo by Donato Sardella/WireImage.com..To license this image (57597518), contact WireImage.com

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  • Exercise With An Elliptical

    Exercise is something that numerous of us are finally getting the hang of. The older we get the more we realize that in order to stay thin and to keep up with our athletic and much younger kids we have actually have to exercise. I discover that one of the…

  • Coach: Peyton’s knee not seriously hurt (AP)

    Peyton Manning's left knee may be sore, but it doesn't appear to be a serious problem for the undefeated Colts. One day after Manning led Indianapolis to a 31-9 victory at Tennessee, coach Jim Caldwell said he had not received a doctor's report regarding the knee, something he would have expected had there been concerns.

  • Favre not out for revenge vs. Packers (AP)

    photo taken on Sunday, Sept. 27, 2009, Minnesota Vikings quarterback Brett Favre(notes) shouts out at the line of scrimmage against the San Francisco 49er during an NFL football game in Minneapolis. Favre says he's not out for revenge heading into the Vikings' Monday night game against his former team, a statement that contradicts his previous comments about wanting to "stick it" to the man who traded him, general manager Ted Thompson.

    One minute, Brett Favre sternly insists he isn't out for revenge against the Green Bay Packers on Monday night. The next, he says it's only human for him to feel like he has something to prove to the team that traded him. In his first extended interview session with Wisconsin-based reporters since well before his unretirement saga went public last summer, Favre reluctantly revisited his…

  • Discover the Healing Power of Gemstones and Crystals

    Did ancient Egyptians, Mayans, and early Hindis know something about the healing power of gemstones and crystals that we don’t? Ancient sages of civilizations long gone believed in the power of a gemstone, which was thought to heal the body upon which it …

  • Dating Tips For Black Men And Women

    Dating Tips for Black Singles
    These dating tips for Black singles can be applied to two Black people dating one another or a Black person having a date with someone from a different ethnic background. The fact of the matter is that by and large dating tips for Black singles are pretty much the same as for any other group of people be they Asian, Jewish or whatever.
    Dating tips for Black single women
    Like it or not you know the guy you’re dating is going to need his ego boosting. It’s an odd fact but men out on dates seem to spend more time trying to get their own ego boosted than they will think about complementing you. Maybe it’s because they are actually unsure of themselves or maybe it’s just the way they’re programmed; but the ‘peacock’ idea of a guy out on a date is very real. Now constantly saying how much you admire what they’re wearing or how good they are at – whatever it is you’ve chosen to do; lets say bowling or dancing or skating – is one way to boost their ego. However, it needs doing succinctly or you could end up just sounding sycophantic. Let him know that you value the person not the action. Of course this is tricky to do on the first few dates as you probably won’t know the date that well. However, a dating tip for Black single women is when making a complement; make one that incorporates another personality trait as this will really act as a double ego boost. For example, rather than saying “great bowling” say something like “great bowling, I can see you’re really thinking about what you’re doing”. Get the idea? Another dating tip for Black single women can be a real tester, but; don’t phone him after the first date, if you’re really keen on him – let him do the chasing and call you first. He’ll love the idea of ‘being in a chase’ and you’ll know just how keen he is on you by how quickly he wants to see you again. Whilst some guys would be flattered that you’ve phoned them others could go all cool towards you thinking that you’re getting ‘clingy’ with them. Be strong – and wait for him to call you – then you can start reeling him in.
    Dating tips for Black single men
    Don’t take offense guys, and this comment is not just a dating tip for Black single men – but all men. You might think it’s all manly and heroic to turn up for a date straight from the Gym. In itself that’s OK – but don’t cut the time so short that you leave for your date before showering. Yes a woman will find the male pheromones you give off attractive. Unfortunately dried and stale perspiration will have the opposite effect. Another dating tip for single Black men is, if you have to meet up with your date straight from work and whether or not it’s due to unforeseen circumstances, apologize for not having had the time to get home and change first. You don’t need to say anymore than that – but you are making it clear to your date that you’re not turning up at your date intentionally without first having had the chance to shower and change. She’ll admire and respect you much more for those few words. Some men need the next tip and some don’t, but of all the dating tips for Black singles – a guy mustn’t forget to complement his date on something, and preferably as soon as he sees her and then remember to complement her throughout the date. Most Black guys out on a date really try to impress and invariably like it when their date complements them. The same is true for your date, so don’t get so wrapped up in yourself that you forget to complement her. Saying something like “you look wonderful tonight” will always go down well. However, to avoid keep repeating yourself pay attention to the conversations you’re having and pick up on the clues and prompts that are in it for you to find something to complement her on. An easy dating tip for Black single men here would be: in a conversation about hair just saying something like “I love the way you’ve done your hair tonight” – will be great.