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  • WTF: Jon Gosselin Has Sex Tape & Used Cocaine

    Posted by: BlogXilla

    Jon’s bodyguard Thomas Meinelt has been subpoenaed to testify in TLC’s lawsuit against Jon, and The ENQUIRER has learned Meinelt claims he saw Jon snort cocaine many times, and that he’s watched Jon’s secret sex tape!

    “Tom told me that Jon was secretly videotaped having sex with a woman in Los Angeles in October, and he’s seen the tape!” said Stephanie Santoro, Jon’s former flame and family nanny.

    “Tom said people close to Jon put a camera in his hotel room, and paid a girl to flirt with Jon and have sex with him.

    “He also told me that he saw Jon snort cocaine on more than one occasion, and that the more Jon got into partying, the more cocaine he used!”

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  • Reebok Easytone Shoes: Sexy Ad Sells, But Is It Sexist? Answer is YES

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    Reebok Easytone Shoes are the hot topic of the hour on sites as diverse as gossip and business blogs. The flavor of the Reebok Easytone debate is not over the shoes themselves — which Wallet Pop has confirmed are actually comfortable. It is over the sexy ads and Web site that promote Easytone shoes by heavily depending on close-ups of a model’s butt, breasts and body. See one of the ‘shocking’ Reebok Easytone ads below, and judge for yourself:

    The model in the picture above (from another ad for Reebok Easytone shoes) is attractive, but I would not want a pair of sneakers that made my bottom so flat. Is that kosher to add to the fury being unleashed by those who find this marketing campaign beyond poor in taste? I hope as an actual woman who loves to exercise, my opinion counts. I have heard much more random perspectives on Web sites that suggest that anyone who complains about a woman’s body being ogled in an ad is probably fat and ugly anyway — as if the nature of the Reebok Easytone Shoe commercials are justified by other people’s flab. From a business perspective, this mantra of justification is being repeated everywhere: Sex sells, sex sells, sex sells. But does any excuse justify the promotion of female objectification that continues to run rampant in our society?

    Sure, on the one hand, Reebok has shoes to sell and the Easytone looks pretty boring without the sexy marketing. PopEater blog is correct in the assertion that this over-the-top approach to using sex is in getting the world clicking. And, no, Reebok is in no way solely responsible for the impact the images of women it creates has on the world. Yet, the fact is that statistic after statistic show women are not taken seriously enough in America to attain equal levels of power and wealth as men.

    Does one Reebok Easytone ad make all the difference in the ongoing reality of gender inequality? No. But it does seem to say that the most important thing a woman can do is tone her butt, rather than building a powerful mind. If we keep encouraging the idea (even incrementally through advertising) that being hot is the end-all, be-all for women, men will never stop seeing women as mere playthings, and girls might be discouraged from trying to be more.

    I am all for hotness, fitness and being sexy. But what about being in control, independent and cool? There is a way to display these traits while portraying a woman with her own power. Think Madonna. Look at Marylin Monroe, who was one of the first producer-stars in Hollywood history. Or Tina Turner, a woman who grows more sexy and stronger with age, and need I say richer. These Reebok Easytone ads take away all the nuance and complexity of a truly sexy, strong and emancipated woman. For this reason alone, I encourage the women they are trying to reach not to buy. Your time would be better spent building up your total identity, not just your bottom half. Women, let’s show these culture creators what real economic empowerment looks like by voting “NO” on Reebok Easytone with our dollars.

     

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  • Notorious B.I.G. Apology to Kandi Burruss

    Posted by: JustGrinding

    Back when Kandi Burruss was in the group Xscape, the Notorious B.I.G. dissed the group on an unreleased song- suggesting that he would rather have sex with drag queen Rupaul then with them. Kandi recounts how he apologized to the group on the night of his death…(via Nahright.com)

  • Rocsi Comes Clean: Sex Suicide & More!

    Posted by: JustGrinding

    Rocsi gave Honeymag. com the scoop. She comes clean about sex, suicide and more.

    (Via Homeymag.com)

    The tiny BET host doesn’t engage in the whirl of activity surrounding her. As her hair stylist and make-up artist go to work, and the fashion assistants bullet past her for last-minute adjustments, Rocsi Diaz – in a voice barely above a whisper – reminds the room that she has to be out of
    the Brooklyn studio in less than two hours for a meeting. She’s about her business. Her glass of Redbull and vodka remains untouched, still posted up next to a posse of eye shadows, blushes and glosses on the table.

    The 25-year-old doesn’t crack her first smile until the pre-shoot convo shifts to Halloween and costumes – she’ll be Lady Gaga. The TV host is perfectly aware that her demeanor comes off a bit cold. She admits it took her BET producers months to realize that she didn’t hate them; she’s just
    quiet.

    “Rocsi the personality and Rocsi the person are two different people,” she says.

    CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL INTERVIEW!!!!

     

     

  • Maybe You Should Re-Think Sex With An Ex

    Posted by: BlogXilla

    Having sexual relations with someone who you are no longer with, usually sounds like it is not such a good idea. Since that person is indeed in the past, it kind of gives you the sense that you are moving backwards, even if it is just for intercourse. Anyone you have had some kind of history with, complicated or not, will make it almost impossible to not re hatch these feelings during some late night rendezvous. I know I may get a backlash for this, but women, we know that along with sex there are times we also develop an attachment and/or emotion with that person we have chose to bring back in our bedroom. Now add an EX into the equation, and it further complicates things. Which is ironic, because “X” in mathematical terms, means nothing, so when it comes to sex, why does the X mean so much?

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  • Financial Lovemaking: Man Shoots Boy for Sleeping with His Daughter

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    I have daughters and I love them all. They are all at “that age,” between 16 and 20, where they tend to love the boys that you want to beat down the most. Every time I hear them express their undying love for Lil Wayne, I can only think about him having 3 women pregnant at the same time. When I see a Chris Brown poster in their room, I remind them that Chris was accused of having boxing practice on Rihanna’s face.

    But as a father, you can’t protect your daughters from themselves. Some things they have to learn on their own. And if sleeping with a pants-saggin, “purple stuff dranking,” gold grill wearing, 10,000 tattoo having buffoon is the way they need to learn their lessons, you just kinda have to deal with it.I empathize with Wade Edwards, the man accused of shooting a boy for sleeping with his step daughter. Wade shot the boy four times, aiming for the “relevant zone” with each bullet. But while I can understand Wade’s anger, I do not, for one second, condone his actions.

    You see Wade, it takes two people to “get busy.” If your daughter was choosing to sleep with this boy, that was her bad decision, not yours. Sure, it was disrespectful for them to get naked under your roof, but fathers have been getting furious about this kind of thing since the beginning of time. Sex is a powerful drug, the essence of the existence of all mankind, so the urge of human attraction can be strong enough to lead to seemingly deviant behavior.

    The problem for Wade, however, is one that merges with the lessons we teach in Financial Lovemaking: Allowing your love for another person to cause you to do things that are going to be financially and emotionally devastating for your family. Wade might feel that he was somehow protecting his daughter (he claims that it was self defense, but I don’t buy that logic), but the truth is that he has now dragged his family into a draining legal drama that is going to cost them thousands in attorney’s fees and even more financial loses when one of the primary providers for the household has to spend his time in prison.

    Any father can relate to how Edwards might have been feeling. Also, every father has to wonder how far he would go to protect his children. I personally would give my life to save my daughters and not think twice about it. At the same time, I would not allow myself to go to prison to keep my daughters from having sex. Sexuality is a natural part of life, even when we feel that the person is too young to be doing it. Don’t pretend like you don’t know what I’m talking about; you probably did it too.

    The episode of Financial lovemaking is below. Enjoy!

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with Your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Dr. Boyce Money: Is a Lack of Sex Grounds for Divorce?

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    I live in New York, so I get the chance to meet a lot of interesting cab drivers. I love listening to older people so I can understand the world a little bit better. One driver, a man in his late 60s, was especially candid with me about his life, his relationships and the personal choices that got him to where we were at that very moment.

    He told me that he was married young, to a beautiful woman. The driver then began a very open description of why he left the marriage. “She was throwing so much sex at me that I didn’t know what to do with it,” the driver said. “Then, after we got married, I had to beg for it and she wasn’t budging, so I told her I needed to get a divorce.”

    “A divorce?” I asked.
    “Yes, there was no point in pretending,” the man responded.
    While it may seem extreme for the man to get a divorce because he wasn’t getting enough sex, it wasn’t as if he was simply jumping from one wife to the next. A few months later, he met and fell in love with another woman, to whom he has been married for the last 35 years. They’ve produced 5 children and 9 grand children, and according to the driver, they still “get busy” every chance they get.

    Alrighty then.

    The cab driver’s story, as odd as it may seem, brings up an interesting question: Is a lack of sex grounds for divorce? Some say that it should be, since they argue that there is an implicit agreement from both parties to fulfill the needs of the other person. Some say that it is immature to leave your mate due to a lack of sex. At the same time, couples regularly cite infidelity as their grounds for splitting up. Does it make sense to agree to only have your needs met by someone who refuses to meet your needs in a satisfactory manner? Probably not.

    Legally, is a lack of sex good cause for divorce? I asked an attorney about that.

    Christopher Chestnut, a prominent attorney out of Gainesville, Florida, argues that it, “depends upon the state. For instance, Florida is a No Fault state, thus, justifiable reasoning for a divorce is not dispositive to a case. Notwithstanding, lack of sex in marriage may be a grounds for divorce in some states.”

    S. Tia Brown and I discuss sexless marriages and whether or not this gives you just cause to roll out or sneak out of your marriage. Listen up and enjoy!

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • Havoc – Smells Like 9/5 / Sex Tape

    Posted by: Illmatic

    Havoc – Smells Like 9/5 / Sex Tape

  • Men That Don’t Take Responsibility For a Pregnancy Are Punk Bitches!


    I’m tired of hearing Black men whine that they aren’t ready to be a father and that he shouldn’t have to pay child support for a kid he didn’t want. Look here fool… if you are having sex bare with a woman you know is fertile, you are ready to be a father whether you affirm it vocally or not. Actions speak louder than words. You are doing everything it takes to become a father, right? So what are you talking about you ain’t ready?

  • Dr. Boyce Talks Money and Sex on ABC News

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    I recently appeared on ABC News to talk about Financial Lovemaking, and the link between sex and money. I’ve discussed relationships and money several times on AOL in the past, but I think that I should quickly lay out some very interesting similarities that may not have crossed your mind. As I teach my Personal Finance Class at Syracuse University this semester, I am reminded that managing our money is linked to managing our love, which is critical to the ultimate goal of effectively managing our lives.

    1) Many people think about both sex and money every single day. Don’t lie, you know you enjoy thinking about sex, even if you aren’t getting any. But chances are, you also think about money, whether it’s figuring out how to get what you need or how to keep what you’ve got. Even most rappers spend all their time talking about either sex, money or how they use their money to get more sex. It’s actually a universal concept.

    2) Both sex and money can make you feel good. If I wrote you a check for a million dollars, you’d probably end up having a good day. If I offered you the sexiest person you could think of to do as you wish, you might have an even better day. Both sex and money have the effect of giving us a natural high that leads to human beings spending their lives obsessed with obtaining both commodities.

    3) Both sex and money can devastate you if you are irresponsible. Promiscuous sex can lead to a life of disease and drama. Promiscuous spending can lead to a life of financial turmoil. Both sex and money, being the powerful drugs that they are, should be managed with both responsibility and moderation. They are both meant to be enjoyed, but not meant to be abused.

    4) It’s scary to share either one of them with another party. Your body is valuable, so you don’t want to share it with the wrong person. Your money is valuable too, so the same logic applies. Sharing your financial or sex life with the wrong person can lead to years of regret. Emotional, physical and financial investments are all quite risky.

    5) Both sex and money require trust if you are engaged with another person. I’ve heard women talk about financial betrayal by their partners in the same context as emotional betrayal. If you trust someone with your money, you are trusting them with your life. The same is true when it comes to trusting them with your body.

    6) It’s no fun to share either your sex or your money with someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing. Sex is better with someone who knows how to do it right. Well, sharing your financial future with someone who knows what they’re doing can actually lead to dramatic improvements in your quality of life. So, when you consider how good a person looks or how great they make you feel, also consider how great they can make you feel in the long run by providing both financial and emotional security, which can effectively be the same thing.

    7) One is often used to obtain the other. On average, guys with more money get more sexual opportunities and those who give good sex could use it to get their bills paid if they wanted to (Come on, let’s be honest here – what’s the oldest profession in the world again?). There are biological reasons that men with greater access to resources tend to make better mating options for women. The rapper Ludacris noticed how he suddenly went from “ah-ight” to “handsome” when he started to make money. That’s to be expected.

    In the episode of ABC News below, we talk about these links between sex and money in more detail. Enjoy!

    Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Finance Professor at Syracuse University and author of “Financial Lovemaking 101: Merging Assets with Your Partner in Ways that Feel Good.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

     

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  • It’s Just a Woman’s Power


    A mature man comments on the female powers of observation and shares a little advice with the fellas… “Men we now have to start coming clean using truth and honesty if we hope to keep our women. This knowledge has me a little paranoid when I meet a woman… now is she looking at me from the inside out? That can’t be a pretty sight because I got issues. Not being as handsome as most and now I know I’m certainly not as smart, I have to be more honest and forthright to attract the opposite sex.”

  • Notable/Quotable: LisaRaye McCoy Misick on Getting Beaten by Husband

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    “It didn’t go down the way it was reported: [They said] I was airlifted, I was beat. Honey if I’m beat, that place would have been on fire. I am a South Side Chicago girl, ain’t nobody putting their hands on me, and getting away with it – at all.”

    — Actress and former First Lady of Turks & Caicos Islands LisaRaye McCoy-Misick on the publicized altercation with her ex-husband Premier Michael Misick. (Jet)

    Top 30 Sexiest Actresses of All-Time

      Top 30 Sexiest Actresses of All Time:
      First off, we acknowledge that ‘sexiness’ is extremely subjective, but since when has that stopped anyone from offering their opinion? It certainly hasn’t kept us from taking note of the women who have served it up to us over and over again on the silver screen. That kind of consistency deserves recognition. That’s why Black Voices took time out to compile a list of the top 30 sexiest actresses of all time. Although many of the women on our list have excelled in various media throughout their careers, we decided to rank each actress based on their “sex appeal in feature films, roles and scenes.” Whether you agree or disagree with our rankings, we want to hear your opinion. Why not give us your own top 30 sexy actresses list? Please post your thoughts, comments and/or opinions in our community message board. Let the sexiness begin!

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      30. Thandie Newton
      It’s fitting that British actress Thandie Newton got the lead slot in our countdown. After all, compiling a list like this is sort of a ‘Mission Impossible’ given the fact that sexiness is completely subjective. Still, Newton sizzles on screen when the role calls for it, whether playing the femme fatale opposite Tom Cruise or the violated wife of Terrence Howard in the 2005 drama ‘Crash.’ No matter what your taste, leaving Newton off our list would have been an injustice.

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      29. Tracy Camilla Johns
      Tracy Camilla Johns first came to our attention in Spike Lee‘s debut feature, ‘She’s Gotta Have It’. The mere fact that she hasn’t left our consciousness since then is a testament to her sex appeal. Oh yeah, we forgot to mention that she played a nymphomaniac dating three men at the same time. She followed that up with a scene-stealing striptease in 1991’s ‘New Jack City.’

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      28. Vivica A. Fox
      Vivica Fox managed to heat up the screen even when playing an ice queen a la Mr. Freeze’s lusty assistant in ‘Batman and Robin.’ We should’ve expected as much from a character named Miss B. Haven. It seems Ms. Fox is destined to live up to her real name, having played sexy roles in ‘Booty Call’ and ‘Two Can Play That Game.’

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      27. Robin Givens
      As if posing in a 1994 issue of Playboy Magazine wasn’t sexy enough! Robin Givens actually played a sex siren opposite Eddie Murphy in ‘Boomerang.’ Givens’ character Jacqueline ultimately seduces Murphy’s character Marcus Graham. Some say she played the same role in real life with her former husband, boxer Mike Tyson.

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      26. Paula Patton
      We can see why fellow R&B crooner Robin Thicke decided to put a ring on the finger of this sultry actress (let alone write a song about her). Of course we’re sure that’s not the only reason, but it couldn’t have hurt. Paula Patton makes the list for roles in ‘Déjà vu’ and ‘Idlewild.’ Her leading men would be lost without the light she brings to the screen.

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      25. Nichelle Nichols
      We couldn’t possibly leave the original intergalactic hottie off of this list! If Nichelle Nichols were the future of space travel, what self-respecting Trekkie wouldn’t want to get beamed up? We would mention that she was hot enough to entice Captain James T. Kirk into TV’s first on-screen interracial kiss, but that wouldn’t be saying nearly enough. In her prime Lieutenant Uhura was light years ahead of the competition.

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      24. Eartha Kitt
      Eartha Kitt epitomizes sexiness. Just her name evokes the signature purr she unleashed as Catwoman. The eyes, the hands, the voice, the legs — they all add to her allure — yet her sexiness is even greater than the sum of her parts. We’ll admit we haven’t seen most of her movies, but it doesn’t take much to be convinced. Besides, have you ever seen her performance of the song Santa Baby?

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      23. Vanity
      Even though she was a ‘Nasty Girl’ in Prince‘s off-shoot group Vanity 6, Vanity (born Denise Katrina Matthews) had everyone in awe over her the 1985 flick ‘The Last Dragon.’ Leroy Green wasn’t the only teenage boy in pursuit of Matthews’ character Laura Charles. Sho ’nuff! Whoever plays her role in the upcoming remake has some pretty sexy heels to fill. (That’s right, we said heels.)

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      22. Lauren London
      When people hear the letters “L.L.” they may automatically associate them with rapper-actor L.L. Cool J. Well, not this time! Hot 24-year-old vixen Lauren London comes in at number 22 for her role as “Erin ‘New New’ Garnett” in the 2006 film ‘ATL.’ She may not have many roles to her credit, but something tells us she’ll more than live up to any future billing.

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